Dec 11, 2020Member-onlyOn Grief and Time. And Our Elf on the Shelf.On Grief and Time. And Our Elf on the Shelf. “Noelle” She leaned in close to the red stuffed Elf that was hanging onto our paper towel roll. “Tomorrow is a weird special day. It’s our brother William’s birthday. He’s two. In heaven. So you might see mommy crying or…Grief5 min read
May 18, 2020Member-onlyMotherhoodMotherhood for me right now is pillow fights on freshly made beds and toothless grins Long days that reach into night and early mornings…Parenting In A Pandemic1 min readMotherhood----
May 6, 2020Member-onlyA First ThanksgivingA love letter to old friends and a New city. It was my first Thanksgiving away from my family. I was living in a tiny Brooklyn apartment with a man I loved and had only known for two years. We had gotten married on August 30th, took our friend’s beat…Friendship7 min read
Feb 13, 2020Member-onlyLove and GriefThe hospital social worker looked my husband and I in the eyes. Our bloodshot, tired, wet eyes. “You had no control over his death. But you do have control over what else will die with it. Don’t let that be your marriage if you don’t want it to be.” This…Grief9 min read
Dec 27, 2019Member-onlyThe Magic MakersThere are your people Those people You know the onesStartup1 min read
Dec 3, 2019Member-onlyThe Extraordinary OrdinaryThe Extraordinary Ordinary The extraordinary ordinary, these things we all do. This birthing of life and grieving it too. These extraordinary things. These impossible insane I can’t believe I did this things. These common happen every day around the world ordinary kind of things. The extraordinary ordinary, these things we all do. This birthing of…Motherhood1 min read
Nov 21, 2019Member-onlyAlone with my griefShould I get bangs? Or maybe a tattoo? I think I’m mad at my husband? For what again? The dirty socks on the floor? Yes, that’s it. The fight we had two years ago? Oh right, that too. I’m hungry Or at least I think that’s what this is? This pain in…Life1 min read
Published in Human Parts·Nov 19, 2019Member-onlyA Gift Guide for Mothers Who’ve Lost Their BabiesI know what these mothers want because I’ve been one — The other day, a friend asked me what she could do for her friend who had just lost their baby. I’ve been asked this before, so I said what I normally do: “Just be there for her” and “maybe make her a meal.” Here’s what I really wanted to say: …Christianity3 min read
Nov 17, 2019What’s in a namePart III Our son his middle name belongs to my grandfather who gave it to my grandmother and then on to my father who gave it to my mother and to me and three others The name my grandfather carried with him down the streets of Chicago the one he clung to through…Poetry2 min read
Nov 12, 2019What’s in a namePart II Our second daughter her middle name belongs to her father’s grandmother The woman who raised his mother and three others on the farm just over the hill near where the rivers meet The woman who married a man who kept her on her feet as they worked side by side to…Family1 min read
